Help! My boyfriend thinks my vagina smells bad!

QUESTION:

I have a good relationship with my boyfriend. We haven’t had sex yet, but we do engage in a lot of foreplay. He always keeps asking me to go down on him, but the problem is that he will never return the favour. I’m aware of the fact that he has done it with his previous girlfriends; it’s just me he won’t go down on. I feel very distressed and singled out because of his behaviour. I have confronted him about the issue multiple times, but he never gives me a proper answer. The last time he said it’s because of an unpleasant odour, but I know I don’t smell bad. What do I do?
- JB

ANSWER:

You feel that you don’t smell bad, but your boyfriend doesn’t feel the same. Assuming he’s serious about this, it would be wiser for you to wash your private parts as often as you can, regularly shave your pubic hair and generally keep the area clean. Perhaps, both of you can take a shower before you get into bed. You may initiate things by going down on him and then request him to reciprocate. If he still denies you, tell him it would bring you immense pleasure and ask what’s getting in the way. Instead of saying “Why don’t you ever ...”, say, “What can I do to make you feel comfortable enough for you to do this?” A healthy and assertive conversation will help you find the solution.